The Love you case study!!

It was an amusing discussion with an old pal. This guy's dad was in army and he was a to the core flirt since probably he was born. :P.. Suddenly, he calls me after some 5 years and says i love you.. I thought it was some time pass trying to call, i said ok, thanks for loving a stranger, makes me feel good.. HANG ON, GARY!! xyz here.. :D.. Oops, why dint you tell me years back that you loved me buddy? Not that i would have liked to acknowledge it even then, but you would have come out of this nasty habit of joking at an early age.. Hee hee, turn around, i just saw you in spencers, i am standing 20 feet away from you and seriously i love you.. AWEEE... no for this surprise i love you too.. It was after years that we were meeting and it was a surprise to the core..
Got talking talking talking.. Flirtoo always has many stories to tell as if there was a huge queue of women ready to die for him kinds but in the end he is always single and ready to mingle. Well, nothing had really changed in his life, he had some 3 girl friends when he was studying in IIM and then when he started working 3 more and finally he was still single and ready to mingle.. :D I said Boss what goes wrong with all the women, they just cant stand you beyond 2 months :P?? (OK, he is fun loving, i can crack such jokes with him :)) He thinks for some time.. He goes, yaar this looks like a case study to me, the i love you case study.. I say i love you to 100 girls, hit rate is lets say 10%, conversion ratio is lets say 2% and then in the end final result is 0%. What should XYZ do to get a final result??

Idiot, what did you do in IIM? Wasted your life? Try and understand the customer segment, your sales pitch is always good, the services and value add part is zero.. With history of 100 gal friends you look like second Tiger Wood in making.. The case is solved, the final result might remain zero for the rest of your life, give your humbling past record which scares me to death..

He totally nodded his head and bought me an ice cream for all the gyaan.. (Ok, i get paid for all my arbit gyaan like a true MBA.. :P).. The love you case study was solved and i am so happy, i have a old lost buddy in town.. :D

Difficult to let go..

There are some things in life which become an intergral part of life and even before you realize you just know that they are difficult to let go. One doll that i bought assuming i will get a rank 1 but i got a rank 2, you know how much i loved it for years?? My cousin broke an eye of my tall doll and me, generally known to be a non violent and non controversial kid, just gave him two tight slaps and did not know if even that was enough to cover up the loss. :P The broken doll stayed in my home till i went for my graduation and no one dared to touch it as they thought this could awaken the hidden violence in me. :D
Similarly, my best pals, i love them. Everyone knows i love them, and i never thought why and when that happened, i just know that sometimes it hurts to see them off on airport. Its not something new, i have been accustomed to letting go, but now i realize that with all the efforts, sometimes it is difficult to let people go.
Family, dearest to me. I have been away from my home for years now. Everytime i have to visit home, i am excited just the way my 4 year old nephew is and till date something within kills when i board the flight back to work.
India, i have been born and brought up here. I love every struggle involved, every problem at hand. Thats been my way of living and life for years now. Its time when i might have to move and i just know that its so difficult to let it go. I remember crying when my cousin broke the eye of my doll, dad consoled me and told that he will get a new one. I said its not about a better doll or new doll, i have invested time and love in it, it hurts to leave somethings you loved so much. Dad understood, he got me a 100 dolls after that, but the hurt doll never lost its place in my home. He always kept it at top and told me there are somethings difficult to let go and its good to come back to them. You dont leave things when you find better ones, you only love them more because they have made themselves imp enough in your life to let go.

The runs between happening and not happening. The desire to do and not to do is a hairline difference. Sometimes, all you know if life is," i will give everything my best shot and till last breath" and you just know that if you want something you want it. You know the target and rest everything will find its way. I saw a lady scolding her kid few days back in a super market and typically using the word "Stubborn". I had been watching the kid, particularly because he was cute and i liked his attitude. He was observant and with cautious thinking and using rationale he picked up a box of chocolate which he thought was small and should not be an issue for his mom. However, for all good reasons as per her mom he should not have had chocolates. :( He kept quite for sometime and then lay straight on the floor with chocolate in hand and focus to eat. Mum scolded him again, this time he took the chocolate out and put it in his mouth with eyes sht as her very well knew that a slap was coming his way. :D.. I dont know, people may call him stubborn, i totally loved it. kids have this undying power and focus and they have fool proof strategies to attain what they want. As we grow, we just lose the so called "stubbornness" to get what we want. I think this hair line journey between happening and not happening is decided by the element of wanting it till end sometimes...

No solstice for me.. :(

This is my first solstice after passing out of isb. I could not go. It was my biometric test for London visa. I hate international travel and locations and everything about it. :( I dont know what i have mised, i would have so loved to be back on campus and among my people. Never mind, one of my batch mates who could not make it to solstice as well decided to make things better for us. Aur kuch nahi to movie sahi.. if not the cool DJ and dance floor then a dinner may be.. ISB, i so totally love you, it hurts when i have to let go of you.. :(

Boredom at its best.

What do you do when you have to go for a party when no one is your age, you have no common topic to talk about and you just know what you had so many better things to do than sit here and look in air??
Well, you dont really have a choice. Ok, things start getting better, there is music, and though i wont say i love cricket, but even that looked interesting to me. I finally thought i should just explore the business model of the place in question and see how things work. And last but not least, when ething else fails, all hopes rest on food. :D
Things were not that bad, there was a very desi dance floor, loud boxes of music, DJ no one will dance with in general, but then it all looked so heavenly. And i saw a huge gang of ppl, OK, they looked equally bored, but then better off. Dancing as always was awesome fun and kind of took away some frustration out of life. I came back home, tired, changed clothes and hit the bed thinking what was it all about? Sometimes, you just wish you could rewind the life and start living it all over again and could take better decisions like not going to the party and looking in air.

Funny..

It was a sunday and i had to buy some urgent stuff. I had almost working weekend, so by the time i gathered myself, it was 6 o clk. I headed straight to the market. While coming back i took an auto. The auto driver seemed to be diving like formula one racer, missing hits by an inch and though generally i dont get scared, but so many times i survived Yam's land that finally i told him, "Bhaiya, dheere chala lo plz.".. HERE is the killer, "MADAM, mein pehle ambulance chalata tha, aise hi chalata tha, dheer nahi chalta, marne walo ke pass time kaha hota hai itna".. I did not know what to say.. I shifted myself to the center of the auto and kind of wondered why the hell did i have to choose him of the trail of autos infront of me.. On lighter note, i totally enjoyed the roller coaster ride..

The land beneath my feet..

This is one off cases in life.. The land beneath my feet was just swiped away in a moment.. I was speechless and for one of the few times in life i did not negotiate and question because person infront was brutually honest.. I did not know what was it all about but i could see the strength of character and determination which i thought exists only in books.. Honesty and passion to do something in life which was not something i had seen in many.. I realized that you might have never had tea all your life because you dont like it, but then there will be some people who will not ask you for it and say this is all i have to offer you and you will know that this is something you cant deny because thats really all that anyone could ever offer to you..
I was asked my a frend to help a frend setup some new venture.. I am not a pro, i thought i will be just one brain added, but i will try.. The discussion went on for 3 hours.. During the discussion i just realized that its so much fun to talk to honest and passionate people.. There is a balance of opinion, there is acceptance and challenging.. And then there is so much of care for every word and learning and denial.. I was not working for a multi million dollar firm with no value for time and effort, i was talking to a human who has dreams and then the person realized that i had been sitting for 3 hours and all that was on offer was tea which could be prepared.. I was asked for tea and i know i dont have tea, but i could not say no, there were no vending machines, will this person make tea for me?? Yes, no work is small and no human is less than special.. As i was handed over the cup of tea, i realized that it was the most precious drink i have ever had..
Time for me to be ruthless.. What if you FAIL?? I dont work to fail and frankly failure does not know me.. I graduated from top b school in world, worked for the best firm, took a call on taking my own path, not to faill.. If i were to fail all these people would not have taken a chance on me and you would not have spent the time that u did and if you were to fail i would not have talked to you for more than 10 mins.. trust me we cant fail.. we can only do well or very well.. HMMM. they look like words to me, data?? Market?? The person opened the plan and i saw the kind of details which left me aghast..
Who did i meet? A character from a novel, or was it a real human? I have not seen such strong elements of confidence, intelligence, honesty and humility in one person at such a young age and with accomplishments to die for. I just realized, there are some people who will take away the land beneath your feet, not with the fancy things, but sheer stroke of honesty and no frills to offer.. Hats Off !!